Now that you know what YOU want, it’s time for you to figure out what
women want. Once you know what she wants, you can begin fine-tuning your
own behavior to better your odds of getting Miss Right. Once you know what
she wants, you then have the power to appeal to any woman and make her
First Things First
Within three minutes of meeting her, a woman will evaluate you, judge you
and stereotype you by your first impression. Despite this being an
unreasonable way to judge a person, women do this to almost every man she
Make those first crucial minutes work FOR you, not against you.
What is communicated and observed during your first few minutes meeting a
woman will dictate your future relationship with that woman: you may
become friends, lovers, or possibly remain strangers.
We are all guilty of judging others based solely on their physical
appearances, and our personal prejudices and shortcomings. As shallow as
that may be, it’s true. You must use this judgment period to your
advantage. This time is your most valuable opportunity to portray your
most attractive qualities. The best way to make your first impression work
for you is to adjust your physical appearance for greatest results.
Dress to Impress
How should a man dress to impress? First, always wear clothes that
correspond to the occasion. Second, always wear a well put-together
outfit. If you have trouble deciding on what to wear, it is always better
to be overdressed than underdressed. You wouldn’t want to show up in
casual wear for dinner at an expensive restaurant with a woman dressed to
kill. A man should always be dressed to meet the occasion or situation. No
matter where you are going with a woman, you should always be wearing
clean, well-kept clothes. Believe it or not, women prefer clothes that are
well-kept and clean to clothes that are worn out or dirty! That may seem
obvious to you, but it is important to remember. By taking care of how you
look, and by showing some style, you show women that you really care about
your presentation – and women notice!
Look Your Best… Always!
You should always take the time to look your best whenever you go out. You
never know when you may have the opportunity to meet a stunning, beautiful
woman – the grocery store, Laundromat, or coffee shop.
Be sure to pay attention to the whole outfit. It’s worth the extra money
to buy your self some nice clothes to wear out. And don’t forget about the
shoes or boots, a new belt and a nice watch. Accessories do make a huge
If you wear a well put-together outfit you will look sharp and portray
The way you dress actually will change how you behave. Think about it… if
you wore a clown costume all day, you would feel silly and goofy. So if
you want to have more sex appeal, wear something that makes you feel sexy.
Women will respond to the image you project. Figure out what image you
portray now and then make the necessary changes in your wardrobe to attain
your desired image. Whatever image you want to give women be sure to act
the part. You should consider all behavior that attributes to your overall
personal image – physical gestures, eye contact. Use your clothes to
emphasize your desired image
With all my experience, and from talking with other guys, a successful
look to maintain is to wear a pair of nice pressed or ironed pants and a
sport shirt. Add to these basics a trendy blazer, leather jacket or simple
sport coat. Wear some good-quality stylish leather shoes or boots (match
your leather jacket if you wear one!) and be sure to always keep your
Be sure to show good taste. The whole outfit can be relaxed, trendy,
conventional, or professional, but any route you take you must look sharp.
Try to stay away from wearing a tie. You want to stay loose and
approachable – not uptight or snobby looking. A simple well put-together
outfit is best. You’ll be more successful with women than you’ve ever
imagined if you wear a clean, classic, well put-together outfit that
exudes style and self-pride.
Refine Your Grooming Regime
Women notice every little thing about a man’s grooming. Every time they
see a guy they go through a mental checklist. Is his hair washed and
styled? Are his fingernails clean or manicured? Are his shoes polished?
Clothes clean? Is he bathed? Does he smell good? These things really
matter to women! Clean and neat counts! Find a grooming regime that works
for you – and stay polished!
Always, I repeat ALWAYS, shower and shave and use deodorant before going
out to meet a woman. You might think the smell of your sweat is manly and
sexy, but most women would strongly disagree! Hold off on sharing your
rugged body odor until you’re hot and heavy in bed. If you are going out
specifically to meet new women or for a date, be sure to take some extra
time getting ready. Show women that you care about your appearance. Make
sure your hair is done properly and your nails are filed and cleaned.
Brush your teeth and use cologne – not too much though, as women generally
have a better sense of smell than men. Take pride in how you look, and you
instantly improve your chances of success!
Get In Shape
You don’t have to be buff, ripped, or a body builder just to get the girl.
But you should make an effort to keep your body fit. Not only for your
health, or for how you look to women you first meet, but also for your
sexual performance in bed. Even if you just do cardio a few times a week,
you’ll not only trim the waist line but you’ll also be able to satisfy
your woman long into the night – without having to take a break halfway
through! Exercise will not only make you look good, it will make you feel
Besides, most women aren’t attracted to a man who is overweight and lazy
because that is a direct indication of how he is as a lover. You want a
woman to see you as a man she could be with physically. Even if somebody
carries himself well and with good posture, it’s an indication of a good
lover – in both men and women.
Another important quality that women love in a man is individuality. Women
love a man with a presence – someone unique. Take another look at your
self-analysis and decide which quality (or qualities) makes you different,
special, or one of a kind. Then come up with a way to draw attention to
that quality. Maybe coin a phrase, or use a prop? If you love photography,
for example, carry a camera with you the next time you go out. We all know
most women love getting their picture taken – maybe a beautiful woman
eager to be your next model will approach you.
Often, wearing some kind of hat will make you stand out. Even wearing a
baseball cap will prevent you from withdrawing into the shadows. If you
want to have a little more fun wear a cowboy hat. Or try wearing a Santa’s
hat at Christmas time. Women love cuteness in a man.
Whatever method you decide to use, be creative. Be confident and have fun
being yourself. Women love a man who shows character.
Build Your Confidence
No matter where you are in your life, you should always know who you want
to be. To build your self-confidence you need to know who you are, know
where you are going, and be actively involved in making your goals
reality. If you don’t like something about yourself, or you want to try
something new, then you should start using your spare time to achieve
these personal goals. Take a class, attend a seminar, or enjoy other
activities that will help you become who you want to be. It won’t take
long for you to start building the self-confidence to which so many women
Intrigue Her With Mystery
Another trait that many women find attractive is a little mystery in a
man. While most women claim they want a man who is open, revealing and
vulnerable, they also find the strong silent type very appealing. Though
this sounds contradictive, it’s relatively easy to respond to. A man who
is mysterious intrigues women. She considers this a challenge, so give in
to her playful game.
Don’t tell all right away – save something for later. You must hold back
from telling a woman everything about yourself right away. An easy way to
do this is to only answer questions. Don’t talk too much about an issue or
experience – you may say something she doesn’t want to hear. Let your
personal story reveal itself over time instead of all at once.
Challenge a woman to find out about you.
Intrigue the woman you are with and she will be more determined to find
out all about you. Women don’t mind having to pry a little to get more
information. But be sure not to be overly secretive, though, or she may
wonder what you are trying to hide!
Show Her Respect
Women want to be admired and appreciated for their special qualities, even
if they deny wanting the attention. Putting the woman of your desire first
will pay off. If you show her that who she is and what she says is
important to you, you will easily be on her good side. You can do this by
being attentive, through compliments – on her looks, a new hairstyle, or a
promotion at work – and by listening to her during your conversations.
Show her you are genuinely interested in her. Admire the woman you are
with, respect her and make her feel special. She’ll be very happy with
you, and she’ll want to please you in return!
Give Her a Little Romance
Romance is attractive. It’s a little well-known fact that women love to be
adored. Being romantic is easier than you think, too! It often means just
doing the little things. Surprise her with a single flower or a note in
her pocket, take her chicken soup when she’s sick, or tell her a song
reminds you of her.
Women always need reassurance.
She needs to know she is needed and wanted.
Women want to hear you say nice things about them. They love flowers and
gifts any time. But you can’t give her romance too often. If you give too
much she’ll come to expect it, and there’s a chance she’ll take it for
granted. Don’t over do it. Romance is a great Ace to play if she is ever
unhappy and you want to cheer her up. A little candlelight, wine and roses
will go a long way!
Make Her Laugh
A sense of humor is key when entertaining a woman. If you can make her
laugh, you can often win her heart, too. Many women complain about men
being too serious. So loosen up, relax, and make her laugh when she’s with
you. Having a sense of humor can make up for other possible shortcomings,
too. Men who aren’t the best looking or in the best physical shape can
often succeed with women just by having a great sense of humor. Being
funny comes from having the confidence to be weird, silly, overly
outgoing, or exaggerated. Let your inhibitions go – use your sense of
humor to your advantage! Don’t be shy – laugh out-loud, and she’ll laugh
Summing Up What Women Want
Women all basically want the same thing: A man who is looks good, who is
sure of himself and who shows genuine interest in being with her. Of
course, each woman has particular traits she looks for, but all women want
a man who is unique, fun to be with, and who will treat her with respect.
After studying this chapter, and making the effort to build on the traits
discussed, you will become more attractive to women. Once you master
looking and acting the way women want, you will develop your own personal
image. Women with a similar image will be drawn to you, and you will have
greater success with these women.